Quit Taking Your Health for Granted

They tell you about the symptoms of your diagnosis.

The headaches, the abdominal pain, the blood loss, the fatigue, etc.

They tell you about the side effects of your prescribed medications.

The dizziness, the more headaches, the nausea, etc.

They don’t tell you about all the moments in between.

They don’t tell you about the times when you’ll be doubled over on a public restroom toilet whimpering and silently cursing. Or the times when you’ll be afraid to drive because you’re not sure where you’ll be able to pull over. They don’t tell you about the times when you’ll be leaning over the side of your bed at midnight staring into the small trashcan trying not to throw up because you know it’ll just make everything hurt worse. Or when you’ll be silently crying in the Walmart parking lot because of the first embarrassing incident. Or when you’ll get those strange stares from your classmates because it’s the second time in one class period that you’ve asked to visit the nurse. Or how every other Friday you’ll have to wake up extra early just to calm yourself down in order to give yourself the shot in your stomach. They don’t tell you about the times when you’ll have to stay home from school just because you won’t be able to walk up and down the stairs more than once. They don’t tell you about the times when you’ll have to call your dad to pick you up from a basketball game after the first quarter because the lights and yelling make you feel like you’re going to pass out. They don’t tell you about being scared for your period to start again because you’ve already lost so much blood. They don’t tell you about the times when you’ll be excited to gain even one pound instead of losing five at a time. They don’t tell you about not being able to stay out late at night or eat at unknown restaurants or feeling so weak that you can barely put the dishes away.

They tell you about the basics.

They don’t tell you about real life.

Literary Teardrops

Maybe I like words because they blend in.

A work of art stands out; it’s colorful and beautiful and pretty.

I wrote a ten-page paper on the importance of art and did not once mention my love for the written word. In fact, I bashed my immense appreciation for language in order to promote the stroke of a brush.

Because I care about you.

I do. And I want you to know. But you would never use your talent to promote mine. You’d never portray the significance of a few strung together letters in order to make me feel, even for a second, like you don’t cringe at the thought of reading.

Appreciate me.

Appreciate me, and every metaphorical sacrifice I’ve made for you. It took me one day to decide my topic and two weeks to finish writing—about art.

But you.

You’ve had my book, my favorite book, or one of, for so long, for two months. You’ve held those words and that story hostage in your locker to collect dust just because I was stupid enough to think you’d want to share in my fictional wonderland. I was wrong, but I’m not sorry.

Not again.

I’ll throw these filled pages at your feet and hope the letters fly and hope the ink smudges on your too worn out shoes and maybe it will stain,

Because nothing else I’ve ever said has.

We Are Far Too Young and Clever

The minute I saw her and spoke to her, that's the minute I knew that she understood. She understood, on some deeper level, everything about me. And maybe she really didn't, but it sure felt like it.

I played that song for you in the car and you still didn't get it.

The very first chords thumped and we knew. I shot her a look and she grabbed my hand and we flew to the dancefloor.

Lights flashed, my face burned from the grins, and the room shrunk to fit just us and Dexy's Midnight Runners.

I don't know these people's names.

I like them.

I'm letting go.

Is this how Sam felt?

But she is fiction.

I am real, this is how I feel.

Right now.

I can feel those once awful memories attached to each note slip away into nothingness, and all that matters right now is the Living Room Routine and this girl who understands and these people I don't know but I wish I did.

Tuu rah loo rah tuu rah loo rah yay

We are spinning around. We lose ourselves. We slow down in time with the music and then speed back up, singing at the top of our lungs, not even caring that we sound horrible and our voices will be gone by the morning. My feet hurt from jumping and in one second, my hands are taken and we are running in a circle, flying and laughing and forgetting about everything.

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This song, this book, used to hurt me. It used to bring me down and make me speculate things that did not need to be speculated. But after that, after that frozen moment, something clicked. I'm building myself back up. I know who I am, and I'm embracing every part of me.

Whoever Eileen is, thank you for inspiring a timeless song and, ultimately, inspiring me.

Recreate and Repeat

"Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you're wearing, who you're around, what you're doing. Recreate and repeat."
-- Warsan Shire

Tuesday, 8:17 p.m. - Sitting at my desk by myself wearing my dad's old gray crewneck and listening to the rain and listening to The Paper Kites and distractedly working on APUSH homework and feeling the cold breeze and daydreaming

Sunday, 1:51 p.m. - Jittering, anticipating the fashion show to start, sitting next to an old comforting friend, drenched in the soft glow of the stage lights, wearing a soft sweater and a small smile, listening to the loud thump of the DJ's familiar remixes, the lights go dark and everything makes sense

Tuesday, 9:39 p.m. - I'm lying in bed in shorts and a too big tie dye tee shirt. I'm telling my dad about my day. I flossed. I trimmed and filed my nails. I turned my fan back on. I took a standardized test. Today was good.

Wednesday, 8:57 a.m. - The windows are down, The 1975 is playing low, the warm wind is rushing lightly across my face, I'm wearing ripped up jeans and a gray shirt, I don't feel gray, I'm heading to another doctor's appointment, this is who I am, and that's okay with me

Recreate and repeat. 

Conclusions / Reminders

Work is hard. But it has to be done. Push through.

Take initiative. Be more focused on the process towards the goal instead of the goal itself. Nothing worthwhile will just fall into the lap of an expectant person.

Relying on people and taking advantage of people are two very different things that can easily be confused.

Know when it is acceptable to be honest with your limits and be kind to yourself, and know when you need to shut up and get it over with.

Remember that there are other ways to make money.

Sacrifices don't always have to be called sacrifices; that word is overwhelming. Also, they don't always have to hurt or impair.

Things usually tend to seem okay-er in the morning.

Talking to Myself Again

It's okay if the world is spinning

It's okay if it's going so fast that you can't keep up and it's okay that you're dizzy again and your head is pounding

Focus on the car door handle

Focus on the lock switch

Don't look at the streetlights whizzing by

Don't look at the guardrail turning into a steady blur

Don't look at the lake it's too cold and it would not feel nice to stay under for that extra second

Focus on the handle and the switch

It's locked

It's going to stay locked until the ground stops moving beneath you and your family

But the ground won't stop moving beneath you

But it's okay if the world is spinning

And it's okay if it won't stop

This Little Moment Means so Much to Me (Happy Tears)

I am sitting in my room and I can hear the rain on the roof and it's dark outside and I'm talking to one of my best friends about our crazy, exciting futures and I can hear "One Love" playing downstairs mixing with my sisters' laughter and I can smell the freshly baked gooey butter cake and I'm writing with my absolute favorite pen and I am so happy and in love and content and I'm realizing that even though I had a blast adventuring with all my best friends yesterday, I wouldn't trade this moment right now for anything.

I've Been Misspelling 'Whoa' for My Whole Life

Candle burning

Daughter sings

Her voice is beautiful

But scary

eerie

Head is pounding

Pages turning

Light flickers

Time is ticking

here i sit and stare at the lines so blank but so full

things are happening around me and i throw words on a page

i set my glasses on the ground

a hazard

sometimes it's easier not to look at what I'm writing

and just write

it flows out better that way

ice cold water and grab the railing

caution,

i hang art on my walls but i can't create

four photos in one frame

five friends in one photobooth

i burned my candle for two months

thanks for getting me a new one

my great-great grandmother's watch doesn't tick anymore

it used to

it used to

i wonder if she loved it as much as i used to

i used to feel my heartbeat so loud

it kept me up at night

now sometimes i forget i even have one

you are so bright on that stage

what's the use of a record player with only one record

one album

repeating

good thing i like ella fitzgerald

is it more brave or more cowardly to pretend like someone you're not in public

Invisible scars on our hearts

From love and loss and lack of either

you said something stupid one time but i remembered it

"endlessly chasable, never attainable"

except chase-able isn't even a word

you are so stupid

i don't want to think about you anymore

i have so many colored pens but i always prefer to use the black one

i feel like it's less biased

the top three best smells in the world are laundry and linen-scented candles and your bedroom

and I've only ever been there twice

superficial

worst fears and bad dreams

superficial

i hate this time of year

i wish the grass would grow

but i guess it's my turn

What's in a Name

The way you say my name

Sweetly and softly and special

Like a proper noun

Important

Meant to be capitalized

Like a title or preface

The consonants roll off your lips and

Each syllable lingers a little too long

You say my name in italics

Smoothly and subtly

You make me like the sound

Of each letter weaving together with the next

It sounds different when you say it

It makes me want to listen

Please say it again

Lent!!!!!!

In the church, it is a tradition to give up something during the forty days of the season of Lent. It is supposed to be a time of reflection and fasting to prepare for and look forward to Christ's resurrection on Easter Sunday. I have never really solidly refrained from anything in the past, but this year I am going to attempt (!!!) to fast from social media.

This would be hard for any teenager in my generation, but that's precisely why I'm up for the challenge. This is in hopes that I will write and create more often, spend more time looking at God's creations rather than my phone screen, and pick up my Bible more frequently.

Since the season lasts forty days, it will take some getting used to, so I'm asking anyone and everyone to hold me accountable. This is something I want to do for myself (really just to prove to myself that I can do it). I'm not going to go toss my phone in the lake, but I am going to delete the social media apps that I have. I'll still reply to your text messages and answer your calls, but I won't be posting any more hilariously witty tweets or aesthetically appealing Instagram photos (sorry to let you all down).

Alright. Enough. This whole thing didn't really require a huge paragraph, but whatever. See ya in forty days, internet.